May 1

We all know the importance of the state of our directing consciousness of mind.

We know that our own mind plays a vital role in determining a happy and successful life.

However interested we may become in studying the mind and its processes we must remember that our emotions have and equal, and sometimes superior power to help us or hinder our life aims.

We are handicapped if we do not understand the essential co-operation that must be arrived at between our thinking self and our feeling self to the extent that we must include in  our self awareness adventure the understanding and culture of our emotional being.

There are old guidelines of value such as –  “When there is an internal battle between the head and the heart, choose the heart!”  Another that says “The mind can often lead you astray, the heart never.”

We must make our own choices in assessing whether our live is valued as a thought or a feeling state, but it is unlikely that happiness, peace or love will be seen as predominantly thought.

It is only our own wisdom or intuition that each must use to determine when and how to blend and apply these two aspects of our nature.

 

 

Nov 20

We grow from the study of particulars to comprehend the whole. This applies to the understanding and expression of our emotions, with the comprehensive, mysterious and all important emotion of love.
So as we know the nature of our personal focus of love and its familiar expression, we expand to consider and embrace all manner of its other qualities. In this we are aided in understanding and respecting traditional astrological properties related to the heavenly spheres and zodiacal energies and to the different types of personality and character of other people we meet along life’s way.
In the course of our lives we should welcome opportunity to learn of their approach and perhaps share some insight into their attitude and understanding of love.
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We observe the Aries type of love – in its courage and valiant expression in action
Taurean love that is stable and possessive and strong to claim its own
The restless love of Gemini associated with need to communicate through speech and writing
Cancer’s love is kindness that creates and secures a home base to nurture others
Leo’s love that is a magnanimous power and radiation of an inherent sense of rulership
Virgo with talents tuned towards and demanding excellence in self and in others
Libra’s love equates with harmony and balance in emotional expression in partnership
Scorpio loves with an intensity few can match in depth of feeling and its search for truth
Sagittarius seeks to demonstrate spontaneity of love associated with a freedom of body and mind
Capricorn with its capacity to work hard and persevere fulfils a natural desire to help others
Aquarius breaks free of any formula for love, seeking beyond personality to a wider sense of oneness
And we have Pisces love that is humble enough to demonstrate true self sacrifice and to love without bounds
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We know that the quality of Love itself cannot be analysed. Yet we know that as there are different types of love so there are differing degrees of human capacity to experience and to radiate this wonderful quality that at its finest can be described as the Great Love that has given life to our whole world and beyond.
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May 29

Just as we have to exercise and look after our own physical health, each of us is responsible for our own emotions – their expressions and restraints.

 The emotions are strong and many a time will win in any conflict situation between thought and feeling.  So we have to maintain a co-operative team situation in recognition of their mutual importance yet retain the mind in the role of manager.

 Many of us were not well informed in our youth of the importance of emotional energy.  Schooling frequently is focused upon intellect and thinking capacity and failed to point out that the secret of life success lies in our emotional energy. Our emotions provide the vital key to success or can destroy our opportunities and bring our career to ruin.

Many a person who is successful in the art of living, both materially and spiritually will admit that their enthusiasm was an important ingredient. They will tell us that they had to learn how to govern their emotions and channel them positively and that it was hard work.

 As sporting skills serve as one arena to train in physical control and development, so our daily life offers us a constant training ground for our emotions. There is not a day goes by but we have a chance to exercise positive emotions of peace, joy, love and affection, optimism and enthusiasm in our work, or in our appreciation of nature and good fortune.  Equally we have to exercise restraint to curb angry responses, impatience, anxiety, greed or selfish desires.

What is that part of your consciousness that is aware of how you really feel; seeks to upgrade any poor emotions; cultivates all your good and loving emotions and seeks to direct this energy constructively to a happy outcome?

It is your own mind.

Sep 22

Just as we have to exercise and look after our own physical health, each of us is responsible for our own emotions, including their expressions and restraints.

 The emotions are strong and many a time will win in any conflict situation between thought and feeling.  So we have to maintain a co-operative team situation in recognition of their mutual importance yet retain the mind in the role of manager.

 Many of us were not well informed in our youth of the importance of emotional energy.  Schooling frequently is focused upon intellect and thinking capacity and fails to point out

that the secret of life success largely relies upon our emotional energy. Positive emotions offer a powerful and vital factor towards our success whether in self culture, social life, or in our work. Negative emotions have a potential to destroy our career or ruin wonderful life opportunities or create a climate for great unhappiness.

Many people who have proven to be successful in the art of living, both materially and spiritually will admit that their enthusiasm was an important ingredient. They will tell us that they had to learn how to govern their emotions and channel them positively and that it was hard work.

Comparing emotions with the element of water is helpful. Feelings can flow gently as a quiet and comfortable stream as contentment. They can be warm and nourishing, or cool and refreshing. Water nurtures all life and is essential to maintain all life forms. A human life without positive feelings of loving and being loved, for instance has little attraction.

As water can manifest as destructive floods, so our emotions can overflow and be harmful.

Our feeling can be joyful like a fountain of happy emotion.  Water can rest in lakes and ponds so can be without movement or expression at risk of stagnation. There are many analogies we can use as we understand the range of the element water and liken it to the emotional range we are capable of expressing.

 As an energy or talent, we must learn to direct it towards not only our own advantage, but that of others as in our relationships. Daily life presents us with a training ground for our feelings.

There is not a day goes by but we have a chance to exercise positive emotions of peace, joy, love and affection, optimism and enthusiasm in our work. Equally, we have to exercise restraint to curb angry responses, impatience, anxiety, greed or selfish desires.

What is that part of our consciousness that is aware of how we really feel; that seeks to upgrade any poor emotions; that has the power to cultivate loving emotions and direct this energy constructively through self culture to a happy outcome?

 It is our own mind.

Aug 23

When we are physically well we know it by experiencing physical comfort and freedom from aches and pains.

When we are mentally well, we experience mental comfort as contentment and freedom from symptoms of stress, depression or anxiety.

Physical well-being is appreciated as a means to an end, which is to enjoy physical activities we have determined as important in our material accomplishments and enjoyments of life.

Mental health is similarly appreciated as a state of mind which can allow us to enjoy pursuit of knowledge and study of things that interest us and make us feel that we are successfully employing our intellect in areas of most importance to us.

Physical symptoms, even minor irritations, can command our attention to the detriment of more important work at hand.

Mental worries and concerns in the same way, leech energies that could be channelled towards achievements of greater value.

Physical fitness requires us to undertake a health programme that reduces symptoms of discomfort and builds our body.

Mental health or mental fitness requires that we establish a corresponding mental health programme that reduces psychological discomfort, and builds a strong and positive mind.

We need to arrive at a state of physical and mental fitness. Many of us understand these principles and are working towards both. However, are you getting results?

There is a third, and vital ingredient to consider. It is the bridge to success.This is the inclusion of the emotional factor, the most powerful element in your life, when it is used and expressed as enthusiasm. Any discipline must be approached with enthusiasm if we wish to enjoy the best results.

 We must undertake self discipline in the right spirit. And this is what is happening if you are experiencing good results in your personal health programme. If however, you find that you are not getting the desired results, consider a fresh approach.

Recognize the need for that third ingredient to be injected into your efforts.

Then you will succeed.

Jul 12

If you are emotionally healthy you will have ingredients of the emotions of all types in your emotional storehouse, but a greater supply of the positive energies than the negative.

You will have a naturally generous and loving attitude to life and to people and feel no urge for undue self preservation attitudes of defensiveness which can cause negative reaction in others.

Your moods will generally be stable and contented and you will be free to display your affection as you wish.

You will graciously receive the affection of others without rejecting their emotional gifts to you.

Guilt will have melted away as you come to kind and understanding of your past and its problems so that you are kind also to yourself. This will equip you to be as kind to others.

You will enjoy life and find many interesting avenues to enjoy through your own seeking, and also you will enjoy whatever life turns up for you.

Above all your attitude of contentment will display a rounded and integrated pattern of your healthy and loving emotional nature that co-operates with your mental values and ideals.

Jun 20

In English we use exactly the same word to denote ‘feeling’ meaning sensory physical touch and experience and for ‘Feeling’ meaning emotional mood and experience.

It is essential to be aware of this in order to properly identification the sensory or the emotional connotation in use of the word. This is further complicated by the fact that sensory feeling can be accompanied by an emotion feeling!

In regard to the following comments the constant reference throughout is to the emotions.

What are the basic emotions of a human being?  Contentment, happiness or joy, suffering or pain, sympathy, kindness, anger, envy, jealousy, compassion, irritation, fear, faith, anxiety, hatred, love, yearning, desire, pride and so on.

In each person these ingredients are developed and exercised differently to create a different and unique recipe of an individual emotional character.  The composite ingredients make up the pattern of the individual essentially our own and which separates us from other emotional bodies of other people around us. Yet the basic emotions and responses are common to us all.

We may have blended our emotions into a character with a harmonious result, giving us a stable and positively polarized personality or possibly we could have thrown our unresolved and tended feelings carelessly aside to result in chaotic and even violent emotional make-up.

Untrained emotions are usually a hotch potch of feelings resulting from life experiences of all kinds without having had any sorting or cleansing to eliminate the negative, that regrettably often predominates.  This continues until we grow discomforted to be always in anger, depression, fear or other unpleasant emotional states and we use our will to alter our reactions to life. This exercise in self culture requires great patience and persistence but is essential for a happy life and smooth relationships.

If we should choose to consciously feed on violence and ugliness, on horror and degraded emotions we develop an emotional body accordingly and will in turn seek to express these violent emotions.  In the same way if we choose to nourish our feelings on beauty, and refinement in music and studies, then gentler emotions and idealism will be nurtured.

It is a matter of choice.

Human beings learn slowly. I. It is easier to say “I was born that way” than to affirm that it is one’s laziness which determines that negative emotions and moods endure. Deny it we may, but the fact remains that each of us can and must be responsible for our emotional control and each of us can and must learn to change for the better the pattern we inherited at our birth.

Emotions of all types comprise our emotional sheath of the personality. Although our emotions are invisible they are very real to us. They need to be nourished and this comes naturally through our enjoyments and the many entertainments that fascinate us. The most important being affection from others and the opportunity to exchange our feelings and communicate them.

One of the most popular ways of emotional enjoyment is through music. But this as nourishment applies only to that music which is melodic, tuneful, clear and uplifting.  There could be nothing more destructive to our emotions than the primitive loud discords and drum beats, the screaming and the inanity of modern rock noise. Scientists have confirmed that these loud discords and depressed subjects harm brain and body.

When we are emotionally in need we naturally turn to soothing music, company of a friend, creative hobby, or go for a walk in nature so that we have the opportunity to re-group our emotional feelings and feel whole again. Some of us have friends who will lift our spirits magically and restore a positive mood but if they are preoccupied, there is no better and constant friend than nature itself or its agents of water, sunshine, gardens and fresh air.

Jun 20

Most women know the tremendous sense of relief after a tearful expression of their negative emotional store. It is a natural way of releasing emotional tension, stress and resentment.

Most men see tears as an emotional indulgence, a weakness and often despise such a display of self-sorrow. Other men are not irritated by tears of a woman, but see it as a sign of distress and opportunity to offer their strong protection and help.

It is usual that men restrain any inclination to cry in their effort to cultivate masculine strength and this is to be applauded in spite of trendy ideas to the contrary. Most women are dismayed to see a man cry and feel very insecure to think that in this sphere men are not stronger than they.

Self pity is not the only emotion which is stored and must be cleansed occasionally from one’s being. There are many others, the most detrimental being that of resentment.  Stored resentment is found to be a factor in creating conditions where physical diseases such as arthritis and cancer flourish.

One’s sense of fairness can prove uncomfortable if one feels that a situation of unfairness has occurred, particularly if it relates immediately to oneself. And this causes a buildup of anger. There are limitless possible situations which can generate an angry response.  But anger does no good.

A problem arises if there is no release of that anger energy.  If it is not displayed, expressed, released or conveyed to give opportunity to resolve the trigger factor, then the anger energy will begin to work destructively in the physical body and cause damage to health of one’s entire being.

Cleansing one’s emotions should be approached within the total attitude and discipline of a self cultural programme. That is, it should not be that one’s effort to get rid of negative energy of emotional kind should be inflicted upon another, nor disturb another’s peace.  There is nothing so quickly flaring a response as sudden anger from one person and defensive response in the other. Although of course it happens often enough, through discipline of each the negative pattern can be averted or changed entirely.

It is best to go off alone and vent one’s spleen by stamping up and down, having a good cry, or sometimes a private scream or yell until you feel your equilibrium return and reason resumes the reins enough to think clearly for discussion and put aside the emotional hurt and negative and often destructive mood that follows.

There is a need to use courage to face up to problems that occur and if necessary confront the person or persons who are party to or responsible for, the cause of your anger or hurt. The only time this should be attempted is when all parties are quiet and the irritant situation diffused. Only then is everyone receptive.

Of course that sounds simple, and in practice is exceedingly difficult. Subtlety, understanding, techniques in negotiation are all part of the qualities which go to successful communication about getting some relief from the emotional inflictions which others can cause. Sometimes it is not possible to get a hearing and then only an attitude or action offers a cure.

Courage is required to make an attempt to voice your concerns and your hurts, your irritations or your anxieties. Discretion is required to choose the right time for such communication and in truth many find that there is never “a right time” – there is likely a permanent reluctance on the part of other parties to avoid confrontation.  Mostly this comes from an over defensive attitude on their part.

With man and woman it is essential to realise that emotional make up of a man is entirely different to that of a woman no matter what unisex ideologies abound.  There are emotional attitudes and defensive stances which a man will most certainly assume when he is approached on emotional issues and these unfortunately appear as weakness or irrational to a woman.  On the other hand, when women are approached by a man who wants a hearing about her problems or habits she invariably responds by talking – and her words and attitudes seem quite irrational to a man.

With the preponderance of domestic violence in the community, it would seem that some basic adjustment is required to make the emotional energies which become inflamed negatively, resume a more balanced warm glow of affectionate understanding in households in order to provide a semblance of a secure and safe environment for children to be reared and for family life to resume its proper place as our greatest need for emotional security.

May 13

It is not that we need more knowledge about the mind as much as finding how to construct a life- saving bridge from our minds to the knowledge deep in our hearts.

Stranded on the shores of knowledge of the intellect alone, we eventually find ourselves lonely and devoid of real life satisfaction and experience regardless of our accumulation of information.

If we should choose to depend upon our emotions and consciousness of our hearts alone, we soon learn that we need the mind to channel our affections and sympathies appropriately.

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Mar 9

It is seldom that emotions are experienced without some accompanying thought.

Our feelings are often motivated by thought and directed by them.

We can entertain an idea that is purely intellectual as a product of thinking alone.

We can entertain emotions without any instruction or control of our minds.

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