It is easy to be aware of physical pain as a symptom of some disturbance of body function. It is natural to give it immediate attention so that we can return to the comfort zone that is physical well being. If we have been physically injured Nature demands time in order to mend damaged tissue, bone or nerves. We need time to recover from any hurt inflicted upon us from outside.
When someone hurts our feelings, and this is perhaps the most common injury, it is likely to demonstrate symptoms of emotional upset. This can range from tearful episodes, anger, seething resentment or violent reactions that can cause aggressive behavior or retaliation. We can also brood about the hurt, or try to resolve the cause by discussion. When it is extremely serious, we can allow depression or even despair to take away our ability to enjoy life.
But if we follow nature’s way we allow time to heal, to restore our positive emotional state and self confidence. This is the best way. And with all healing, it just can happen, sometimes magically, if we place trust in the natural process and give ourselves time to decide how to act. We should refrain from reacting too hastily.
There are also occurrences so traumatic that they damage us physically and psychologically to extend our pain and suffering for a lifetime if we do not find a remedy.
We must find the courage to face or acknowledge the unique causes and hurtful experiences if we are to become free of them to feel whole and happy inside. Acceptance, forgiveness, understanding are valuable tools.
In matters of the heart we must be free of trying to equate or measure affections in relationships. We each love according to our quality of affection, our capacity and in our own unique way. Our love is a gift given to be accepted or rejected by others. We cannot bargain with our heart or demand something another cannot give.
It is often true that when you suffer emotional hurt from another, it is not so much their deliberate intention to hurt but their actions are sparked by their own uncontrolled emotions.
The only positive result of our experience of emotional pain is a determination never to inflict the same hurt upon someone else.
Sally Janssen’s wonderful book “Mental Fitness: The Complete Self-Help Guide”, offers timely solutions. Read more…
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