Repeated habits can demonstrate to others our levels of stress.
There are many personal common behavioural habits that we have such as hand gestures, foot tapping, and other obvious and often irritating ways. We are more often than not, unaware of these displays of unease. But in social life and in business in particular, these signs tell another person what is our subconscious state of mind and so is keen to observe and to interpret this information according to the situation.
If we are not feeling self confident we tend to be more defensive or aggressive to make up for it. It is certainly generally accepted by those who study behaviour, that when we feel inwardly confident and therefore at ease, our behaviour and the aura around us will be more relaxed.
However, we all have different degrees of capability in disguising our inner stress. It is not always apparent to others that we are suffering butterflies in the stomach or sweaty palms. Our self discipline then becomes a private awareness and a determined will to overcome the cause of our stress.
A calm, self possessed person engenders good responses in others. A highly nervous, tense or angry person has the opposite affect.
We are also generally aware that when we are suffering from nervous tension, our behaviour is affected in some way.
We must persist in observing our own behaviour for signs of strain just as we become aware of symptoms of stress in others. Symptoms may be biting finger nails, or fondling a strand of hair and other habits which do not harm or affect others except by causing irritation. Others can be more serious.
Do you have any often repeated habits or repeated reactions that others may find irritating or to conclude that you are a person with stress?
Sally Janssen’s wonderful book “Mental Fitness: A Simple Self-Help Guide”, offers simple and timely solutions. Read more…
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