When it comes to our self image we are pretty much dependent upon our own sense of self value and self respect. Others can help us in building up a personality but can equally destroy the image we would like to hold as a genuine reflection of our true nature. It is with faithful friends that we feel secure, aware that they have some understanding of this picture of ourselves that we cherish. Those who do not perceive the goodness or reality of our inner nature tend to make us defensive and uncertain.
What we have each to do is to hold a plan of our ideal – the personality we wish to use to express ourselves – and programme ourselves to relate to this, regardless of circumstances or outer relationships. The old wisdom “Be true to yourself”… applies here.
We have to make this important plan, just as we would have to do if we were acting out a role in a theatre drama. It will involve spending a quiet time gathering your thoughts to focus upon the most important components you wish to build into your self image.
The people we look up to can assist us in forming a foundation. Heroes and heroines serve us in two ways by offering us a chance to admire them from afar, or to stimulate us to emulate certain similar talents and qualities. But care is needed in patterning yourself in this way without first deciding for yourself what are your own unique qualities. These may be very different from the ones you may feel that you admire in your heroes, but who is to say that they are not even more admirable?
It is the Vedic literature that reminds us that within us we have the seeds of every human trait or quality, with none of us favoured over another. It is only a case of each of us making choices as to the seed energies and powers, talents and qualities that we choose to cultivate. It is this that makes the differences between us in our external personalities. Regardless of hereditary factors, environment, education and many other influences that obviously are also involved, we have the reminder here that we have free will. It is this that is used by us to help determine our future.
A good astrologer can guide you to feel more confident of the positive planetary and zodiacal influences that became inherent in you at the time of your birth and capable of reflecting particular virtues and talents. It can also be clearly defined where your inherent weaknesses are likely to manifest.
But this, although a wonderful starting point is only a beginning. You must be willing yourself to build your image, develop the talents you feel are dominant in your nature, follow the work that you know you will love to do, and with all the positive encouragements as well as criticism, remain true to creating a personality you would most admire – yourself.
Sally Janssen’s wonderful book “Mental Fitness: The Complete Self-Help Guide”, offers timely solutions. Read more…
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